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This behaviour common to most people can rewire and shrink brain-- And how to fix it

etimes.in | Last updated on - Jun 17, 2025, 16:35 IST
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5 reasons to stop complaining NOW— Backed by psychology

We all complain time and again about things going wrong in life but when it becomes a habit, constant complaining can reduces our happiness, affect our relationships, and reduce our quality in life. Chronic complaining does more harm than we realise. While venting occasionally can be healthy, constantly focusing only on the negatives can deeply affect how we think, feel, and perceive the world around us. Here we list five major reasons why one should stop complaining NOW, as per psychology and how to fix it:

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Constantly complaining can damage the brain

While this might sound bizarre and shocking, it is true. "Research from Stanford University has also found that complaining reduces the size of our hippocampus, which, is responsible for memory and problem solving. The study found that engaging in complaining or simply hearing someone complain for more than 30 minutes could physically damage our brains," reads an article on M1 Psychology. Truly, then, constant complaining can damage your brain in the long run.

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Complaining rewires your brain for negativity

Repeated complaining strengthens the negative neural pathways in your brain, studies suggest. According to a Standford Study reported by M1 Psychology, "The more frequently you complain, you increase your likelihood of thinking negative thoughts later. In neuroscience, the phrase “synapses that fire together wire together” is used to explain this concept."
In simpler terms, this means that your mind becomes trained to find more faults in everything instead of finding solutions. Over time, this becomes a mental habit— you start criticising more, instead of practising gratitude. The brain literally rewires itself based on what you focus on the most. And so, this affects your overall mood, productivity, and even how you repond to and handle challenges in everyda life. To overcome this, start practice gratitude— your brain will start looking for positives in life and build happier, more resilient patterns.

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It damages our relationships and social bonds

Nobody likes being around people who are always negative and constantly complain. This can make others feel drained and frustrated, and over time they may even start avoiding such negative people. And so, constantly complaining reduces people's empathy and weakens our relationships with others.

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Complaining increases stress and causes anxiety

While complaining we often look at the negatives and things going wrong in our life, instead of focussing on the brighter side. This increases stress hormones like cortisol. In the long run, chronic stress can impact our sleep, immune function, and overall mental health. So, instead of complaining about all that's going wrong try to pause and calming your mind. Even a short meditation for 10 minutes can help you calm down and shift your focus, thus reducing stress. Journaling or talking to a trusted friend or therapist can also help.

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Constant venting blocks problem-solving skills and hinders growth

When we complain, we focus on the problems instead of finding solutions to them. It’s a mental trap that keeps you stuck and hinders growth. So when you get into a loop of complaining, pause and ask yourself: “What can I learn or do about this?" That mindset shift can help you grow as a person and become better.


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