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4 signs of divorce that predict if a couple will split with 90% accuracy

TIMESOFINDIA.COM | Last updated on - Apr 22, 2023, 17:00 IST

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Look for these signs

There are many signs that indicate your relationship is inching towards a divorce but there are 4 signs that vouch for 90% accuracy in telling us that marriage is about to end. To avoid such a scenario in your relationship, scroll down now to see what a research has to say.

According to research from John Gottman, Ph.D., co-founder of the Gottman Institute, which provides couples' counseling and educates mental health care providers, there are 4 sure shot signs that predict divorce.

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Toxic criticism

This involves attacking the character or personality of one's partner instead of addressing specific behaviors or actions. Criticism can erode the emotional connection between partners and increase the likelihood of divorce. According to the research, when you use the words ‘never’ and ‘always,’ you are judging and commenting on the character rather than focusing on the issue at hand.

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Defensiveness

By defensiveness, we mean the tendency to respond to criticism with defensiveness, denial, or counter-attacks. When couples get defensive, it can escalate conflicts and lead to a breakdown in the relationship. When you defend, it is all about making excuses and you are not owning your actions. Taking accountability for your own actions in the complaint made by your partner helps a lot.

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Stonewalling

Stonewalling is withdrawing from communication or shutting down emotionally during conflicts. Stonewalling can make it difficult for partners to resolve their issues and can increase the risk of divorce. Many couples make the mistake of practicing silent treatment which further poisons the relationship. Both partners are required to de-escalate the fights and learn to recognize when one partner is overwhelmed.

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Contempt

Signs of contempt include sighing, rolling your eyes, mocking your partner, cutting sarcasm, or showing a dislike for your partner or the things they value. This is one of the most dangerous warning signs as it is also referred to as the relationship killer. If it is not addressed it will boil down to resentment over the years.