10 signs one is not ready for love, as per relationship expert

Love is a universal language. And while most people want to be in love and experience its magic, not many are fully ready to have it. Intriguing, right? Talking on these lines, Relationship and Psychology Expert (PhD) Kimberly Moffit recently took to social media where she shared her 10 signs that show one is not ready for love yet and they might not even know it. Read on to know what these subtle signs are:

"You're not ready for love if emotional neutrality feels suspicious. If someone treats you with calm, consistent crae and your first thought is "What's their angle?", you're wired for chaos, not connection. Peace shouldn't feel like a threat," Kimberly Moffit, Relationship and Psychology Expert (PhD), shared in her post.

"You're not ready for love if you are still curating your personality or likability. If every date feels like a performance (timing your texts, editing your opinions) you're seeking approval, not resonance. You can't receive love as your full self if you keep shrinking to be chosen," she further shared.

"You're not ready for love if you're allergic to inconvenience. Love requires compromise, delayed gratification, and discomfort. If you shut down or get irritable the moment something isn't seamless, you're not ready for the messiness that real love brings," she said, and rightly so. When in a relationship, couples are bound to fight and argue. But one should remember to fight together against the problems, rather than fight with each other.

"You're not ready for love if you are more excited about the idea of love than real love," she said. If how you appear on social media to others is more important than how much you work on your relationship for it to thrive, then it is a sign that you aren't ready for the realities of loving someone. A relationship comes with its fair share of ups and downs-- what matters the most is how one deals with the problems together as a couple.

"You're not ready for love if you're more fluent in coping than connecting. You know how to "handle things on your own", but let someone get too close and you shut down," she added. This shows that you are hyperindependent and may not be ready to have a partner in life. It also reflects your distrust on others.

"You're not ready for love if you confuse chemistry with nervous system chaos," the expert further added. Love should bring calm and peace to you, not more confusion, drama, and chaos to your life.

Deep love and understanding often makes one feel comfortable with their partner. However, "You're not ready for love if you if silence makes you anxious," the relationship coach said. Also, you expect instant responses and if your partner takes time to respond, you get anxious. This is not love, but attachment which will only lead to heartaches in the long run.

For a relationship to be successful, you need to work on your understanding and compatibility. Sometimes, love is not enough and it alone cannot make your relationship survive the test of time. "You're not ready for love if you romanticise being chosen over compatibility," Kimberly Moffit said.

"You're not ready for love if you're more curious about being understood than understanding... Love is mutual witnessing, not just being adored," Kimberly said.

And lastly, "You're not ready for love if you haven't explored your conflict side. Do you ghost? Explode? Shut down? Argue to win? If you don't know how you actually navigate tension, love will surface in ways you might not be ready to handle," Kimberly warns. And so, one needs to know themselves better, love and accept themselves as they are before searching for love in others.